I’m feeling pretty upset right now and just need to vent.
My husband thinks I’m too thin. And I agree that I’m underweight, I’ve been working on increasing the calories. The problem is that my digestion seems to need a delicate balance right now; seemingly if I go too far astray from my ideal meal plan, I get constipated (SORRY not TMI I hope, but it’s true). That includes eating too much fat, too much cooked food, too late at night.
Basically, I’ve been putting a lot of thought into what works the best for my body. It’s not 100% perfect yet, but I think I’m getting closer and I’ve been feeling really good about it lately. Still not gaining weight, though, and I think my husband’s family has been giving him a hard time about it.
Now he’s really upset and is trying to force me to eat what HE thinks I should be eating. Tonight he’s making pizza – which is sweet of him, and I’m fine with eating, say, a large slice to make him feel better. I would prefer not to, but I’m sure it will taste good and I DO need to gain weight. But I’m afraid he’s going to make a huge stink about me not eating enough of it – we already had it out yesterday over whether there was going to be cheese on the pizza. Furthermore, I am almost positive this meal is not going to be ready until about 8pm, and that is just too late for me to comfortably eat a lot of bread which will certainly be soaked in olive oil - I aim for a 10pm bedtime.
I mentioned this fact to him and he thinks it’s just an excuse not to eat the bread. And he has INFORMED me (not asked) that he will also be making me dinner tomorrow, but he won’t even tell me what it is that he plans to make me eat. I feel like a child being punished. It is ridiculous, especially because other than being underweight (not even excessively – I’m 5’7 and weigh about 100lbs right now), and not having a period for a number of months as a result, I am healthy in every other way. I’ve been to the gyno and a regular doctor recently, and they said that I was underweight but didn’t seem too concerned. I even had blood work done and everything came back normal, if you want to trust that line of evidence.
ANYWAYS sorry for the rant, I’m just dreading dinner tonight, because I know there is no way both he and I are going to be happy with the outcome. Any advice would be welcome!
Hi Sara. Obviously your husband cares about you and is worried about you. Try talking to him, tell him you do want to gain weight but by eating the foods YOU want to. Show him a list of dinners you could make that include healthy fats and higher calorie foods so he sees you are serious about gaining weight. My husband is not too supportive of RAW either and often makes comments about my weight and eating habits. They just dont understand. But I dont let him get me down. I stick to my eating regimen. You know your body and know it well. My body cannot handle dairy at all. I wouldn't let someone MAKE me eat it. Try to just be calm about everything and really enforce the fact to your hubby you do realize you need to gain weight and want to, but then show him how you plan to do that.